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Just for Me: A Reminder to Just Enjoy

May 17, 2026      Leave a Comment

There is a core belief I have held that needs to be released.

The belief that my creativity needs to be earned.
Needs to be valued, ie, paid for, in order for it to be valid.

I am not sure where this belief came from really. From a young age I wanted to be a writer. Somewhere along the line I believed I needed to have a “real” job until I got my big writer’s break and was given a writing contract thus solidifying my happily-ever-after.

I started out as a nursing major in college and quickly realized that was not where I belonged. I tried journalism and life (thankfully) knocked me off that road as well. And over the years I have grown up, bought houses, married, had children am raising and homeschooling said children all the while in the back of my mind trying to figure out how to validate my creativity.

That is, to be paid for it and making myself a “real” writer and a “real” artist.

I was talking with my (turning 12 this week) year-old son the other day. He was showing me the comic books he’s been working on. The characters he’s created, the back stories, telling me the story arcs he has planned. At one point I mentioned selling them someday and he just shrugged and said, “eh, I kind of just want these to be for me you know?”

Just for him. I smiled and told him how great that was.

And that little phrase has been running around my head now for the past week.

“Just for me.”

What would it look like if I made art just for me?

If I didn’t stop and think about how this sketch would get me better at drawing faces so I could sell those stickers I had in mind.

If I didn’t silently chastise myself each and every day for not making strides toward my creative career.

I had an astrology reading done recently by KV. You can check out her Substack here (if you want your birth chart done I highly recommend her-she’s amazing!). In this reading she writes about how before I can share my spiritual gifts I need to walk the walk first, need to really go through the process myself so that I understand what it is I am going to be sharing.

Our creativity is just like that. First and foremost creativity is for the creator. It’s the way we understand what we experience in the world. It’s how we make sense of the random thoughts and ideas that stream into our conscious and dreaming minds. (Dragons anyone? No? Just me?).

We create worlds so that we can play in them. See what’s missing and add it. We get to know our way around our sketchbooks and our creative practice and that learning, that refining, that play is what brings us into alignment with our creative selves.

Whether or not we do anything more with it is a question for another day.

So, if like me you are chastising yourself for what your current creative practice looks like. If maybe you are thinking you should be doing more with it. Making it something else, I hope this is a quiet little reminder to do something just for you this week. I know I am.

Until next time…

-Michele, aka The Dreaming Dilettante

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Doing It My Way: An Unguided Path to Creative Play

April 12, 2026      Leave a Comment

I am working on my book. Did I mention that here? I am currently editing my first cozy mystery called “Houseplant Homicides” * that I should be releasing later this year.

The dream of making a living as a writer has been with me since I was about 10 years old. That’s quite a few decades and yet, it hasn’t happened for me yet. Of course it’s all to do with my own lack right? All the ways I haven’t been doing things correctly:

  • I wasn’t consistent enough
  • I wasn’t disciplined enough
  • I didn’t do an outline
  • I didn’t wake up early enough each day

    This is just the tip of all the things I have been saying to myself. Of course there is the constant comparison, the fact that I’m probably not a good writer anyway because I write just like a talk in full run-on sentences like my teacher in grade school used to always correct me about. Then of course there is just the realities of life and things happening and not wanting to.

So what’s new?

Well, there has been a lot of energy happening lately-maybe you’ve felt it? The spiritual part of me has been studying and learning and growing and, if I’m being completely honest totally freaking out. Anxiety? Check. Fear? Check. Moments of complete union and peace. Check.

I mean what is even happening?

So I’ve ridden the waves of uncertainty, panic, fear and self-doubt (screaming if I am being completely honest) and somewhere in the midst of all that I realized something.

At the root of it all, was me, trying to not be me.

I was in fear because I feared what would happen if I was truly me and “they” didn’t like it.

I was in doubt because being me couldn’t be enough could it?

I was panicking because I really wanted this thing but I have to do it in a way that isn’t me-don’t I?

So I started to let some of that go. Not perfect of course, I’m sure the waves will come back for me soon enough to deepen and expand what I think I’ve learned and expose the places where I haven’t learned enough.

But, I started.

I started to let go of anything that started with “should.”

“I should be writing now not working in the garden.”

“I should finish this thing before I start that thing.”

“I should write like this.”

Instead, I started to follow the things I found exciting. Like printed materials!

I am really excited about making books, printed, hold in your hands paper books. The ideas are coming forward and it feels so fun!

Work shouldn’t be fun right? It’s serious business.

Only, I’m not serious about business. I don’t even like the word business. I want to write, I want to share what I write. Maybe that’s success enough for me.

I mean, I am the one who gets to define what success looks like for me right? Like going from 12 to 19 subscribers since the start of the year-that’s success!

Writing a book-that’s a success!

Writing this substack post-success!

Having a publishing plan that looks nothing like something you would find in a “10 Steps to a Successful Book Launch” e-book-success!

It’s taken me longer than seems sensible to realize that I get to define this little life all for myself. Silly right?

Letting my creativity lead the way instead of studies or statistics feels like the best path for me. Allowing myself to create something in the way I want without getting caught up in the shoulds and have-to’s feels like the most authentic way to create and at the end of the day, it’s the act of creating that I love.

So here’s to doing it our way-whatever that is. Even if we are still figuring it out along the creative path. I’ll be sure to wave to you while I walk mine should ours intersect and the kettle will probably be on as well.

Much love!

Until next time…

-Michele, aka The Dreaming Dilettante

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Planty Day: Dracena Care, Tips & Re-potting

September 2, 2024      Leave a Comment

Today I am sharing one my biggest loves-houseplants.

I absolutely love everything about the planty things. I love learning about plants, caring for plants, buying plants and sharing it all with you.

Today I am re-potting a Dracena plant I own. I believe it’s “Jenny Craig” and I picked it up from what I have dubbed “death row” at one of the local big box stores. The plant was in rough shape and deeply discounted however it had a pretty pot so I decided to pick her up and see if I could save her.

Dracenas are considered a tropical every green plant and are pretty hardy if you are new or unsure about caring for house plants. They like medium to low light which means the light you have already in your home is probably adequate for these plants. You wouldn’t want to place them where the sun is shine right on their leaves as they are prone to burning but putting them in a room that gets lots of bright light will have your Dracena living the good life.

As with pretty much all houseplants you want to use well-draining soil. Most plants if they are planted in a pot with heavy soil that is soggy will end up developing root rot. You want the soil to be evening moist but not soggy. I am re-potting my Dracena today using some Orchid Bark Mix (available at your big box stores or online) along with some regular old houseplant potting mix. You could also add some perlite to houseplant mix to make sure your soil drains well.

Another key to happy houseplants is putting them in a pot with drainage holes. You can always put that pot into a more decorate pot and take it out when you water your plants-let them drain well into the sink and put them back in their decorative pot.

You don’t need to worry about humidifiers or pebble trays for these plants as the average humidity in your home should be adequate unless you are in a super dry and hot climate. It’s best to let the top few inches of the soil dry out before watering again but these plants will forgive you if you let them get dryer than that. They will show they are thirsty by a bit of leaf curling that usually bounces back after a good drink.

Pruning this plant is necessary but doing so can encourage a bushier, fuller plant. It’s also what I did to remove some of the damaged leaves.

You normally want to re-pot in early spring or summer but since this plants soil was a little over-watered and it was struggling I decided to do it today. Once you re-pot you want to give your plant a little water to help settle the soil around the roots.

Dracenas are toxic to pets if ingested so be sure to keep them away from your furry friends and children or any random guests you think might take a nibble.

And that’s it for Dracena care! You can watch me chatting and re-potting in the video below but feel free to post any questions below.

 

Until next time…

-Michele, aka The Dreaming Dilettante

Shop Small Saturday: Houseplant Edition

November 29, 2023      Leave a Comment

Today I am sharing some plant fun. We had snow flurries today and my garden is well packed in for the season but thankfully inside I have my own little green babies growing happily. I find such peace in walking around during the day and checking on them. Often times in the evening before bed I will walk around and do a little pruning, watering and that’s also when I turn on my humidifier in the living room for some of my more particular plant babies and also the one in our bedroom.

Houseplants bring me such joy and last week I was browsing around looking for some local houseplant shops I could visit. I was so excited when I found a wonderful shop not far from me. Wandering their greenhouse was the therapy I needed after feeling a bit out of sorts the past few weeks. And, of course I treated myself to a few new little plants.

I am by no means a plant expert but I did some research on my new plants and thought I would share what I found with you. The shop offers details on their website which is great. So here is what I picked up:

“Purple Passion” Gynura aurantiaca:  This plant is one my mother always had at home and was one of the first ones I purchased when I got my own place. I have been on a search for it recently and was so happy to see it here.

Gynura aurantiaca like most houseplants like bright indirect light which basically means a sunny room but not where the sun is shining directly on the leaves which could cause scorching. Your average well-draining potting soil works perfectly along with a balanced fertilizer which I only really do when it’s spring or summer or if my plants really seem to be growing a lot.

The fuzzy leaves on this plant can hold moisture and cause rot and my mother always said you didn’t want to get them wet so bottom watering is advised. Keeping the soil slightly moist is ideal but if it gets a little dry in the winter it’s not the worse thing. Like most house plants you want them to be watered well but never in soggy soil which can promote rot. I purchased a moisture meter for about $6 and it’s my favorite thing! I never really saw a necessity but it’s great for letting you know whether your plant needs a drink or not.

Next up I purchased a Peperomia ‘Quito.’ Peperomia have become one of my favorite plants of late and this one with it’s peachy leaves really brought a smile to my face and that’s the best reason to bring home a plant. For light we are again looking for bright indirect sunlight and this plants like the top inch or more of it’s soil to dry out before you water it again. Use a well draining soil and if you can put these in a group of other humidity loving plants, on a pebble tray or near a humidifier they will love you for it! They like it warm between 65-75F and fertilizer during active growth with a balanced fertilizer.

Burro’s Tail is an adorable succulent that I brought home. The texture on this plant is absolutely stunning and I love that the little leaves can grow you new plants. Easy propagation of more plant babies is always a plus!

This succulent love bright indirect light but avoid sunshine on the leaves. Like our Peperomia it loves temperatures of 65-75F, a well-draining cactus soil and to be watered sparingly especially in the winter months. Succulents usually tell you that they need water when their leaves start to wrinkle. You also want to avoid wetting the leaves as this could cause them to rot. These plants don’t need high humidity so if your house tends to be on the dryer side this plant is perfect. Fertilize during the growing season only.

Alocasia ‘Silver Dragon’ has to be one of the coolest plants I have. It’s leaves feel so incredible textures it almost reminds me of plastic. The veining is gorgeous and I am so happy to have it sitting in my living room.

Again this plant loves bright indirect light, warm temperatures with higher humidity and a well draining soil that stays moist but never soggy. Like the other plants you really only need to fertilize during the spring and summer unless you notice your plant growing a great deal during the winter months.

Peperomia ‘Hope’ attracted my attention right away! I love the plump leaves and the trailing vines of this plant. It’s currently on one of my shelves keeping some of the books from TBR list company.

With average humidity levels and bright indirect light this Peperomia is less particular than some. It likes the warm temperatures of 65-80F and well draining soil that is allowed to dry out for the first top inch or so before being watered again.

Last but certainly not least are two little baby jade plants.

Now I was looking for a jade plant but when I saw the story of these I loved it even more! These little plants are from a cutting of plant they had in the green house that is 80 years old. That was just too cool to pass up! I love to think that these little guys could grow into large plants that I am able to share cuttings with friends and family for the next 100 years!

Jade plants or Crassula ovata, are succulents that like very well draining soil and you want to keep the soil damp-like a wrung out sponge but never soggy. Growing them indoors you can give them full sun so they grow well however gradually acclimate them to it. Start them in bright indirect light and move them closer and closer to that sunny window.

So that was my most recent plant haul. I hope you enjoyed this and I would love to hear what some of your favorite house plants are.

Until next time…

-Michele, aka The Dreaming Dilettante

 

 

 

Wait, I Can Do That!

August 22, 2023      2 Comments

I’m not sure about you but I am holding on to summer.

Cutting flowers from the garden. Munching on cucumbers, green beans and cherry tomatoes. I have no desire to see fall quite yet and I am happy wandering around in my flowing skirts and slip on shoes.

My working schedule, as a result, has been a bit off kilter lately. We have been enjoying lots of social time with friends and I have been getting more and more involved in our church sharing creative projects with the kids and helping out as best I can. It didn’t occur to me until yesterday, after I was once again beating myself up for missing my upload dates that, “wait, I can change them!”

For some reason, the arbitrary schedule I created when first launching my channels seemed to be etched in stone-a deadline that must be met at all cost. I started feeling myself dragging my heels uninspired to create. I am so grateful for the little voice that pointed out simply, “you could just adjust things.”

Huh, wait, I can do that!

So I did. I let go of some content that was just not inspiring me. I focused on the ones that still are and, I moved around when I will be sharing my content and as a result of feel amazing! I am inspired once again with the content I am creating and looking forward to my studio time which has freed up immensely giving me lots of play time.

And really, as creatives that’s what we need.

We need play time. We need fun. We need to be able to just mess around with our materials without worrying about the end result. Play time is essential to creativity.

So now I find myself, sitting here relaxing with lots of free time to just putter around the studio, have a cuppa and connect with you all. I hope you are finding yourself with some free creative time.

Until next time…

-Michele, aka The Dreaming Dilettante

Video: A Day in the Garden

June 9, 2023      2 Comments

Happy Friday!

Today I am chatting all about the garden-with a little video tour as well. I filmed this back in May but if I am being honest the past month seems to have gotten away from me. Between birthdays, anniversaries it seems that the month flew by in a lovely wave. That and I have been busy prepping for my first in-person class that happened this Monday (it was so much fun! I can’t wait to do more!). Now that things have settled a bit, I am excited to be sharing with you all that I am up to here in the land of the dilettante.

I have decided to use one of my old channels to share my gardening adventures. You may remember last year I shared photos of all my cut flowers and this year I thought it would be fun to share some of my gardening chores and what I am up to in the garden. I’ll also share photos of my cut flowers because I just love them so much.

In today’s video I am having a bit of chat after spending the whole day alone in the garden. Can I just say it was bliss? The weather was beautiful, the neighborhood was quiet and I was digging around in the dirt-a perfect day.

I start off the video chatting and then give a tour of all the garden beds I have set up including a new one I made for my zinnias. Zinnias are one of my most favorite flowers. The are beautiful in bouquet, last a long while, bloom all season and come in a ton of colors-what’s not to love? So I have created a whole garden just for my zinnias. I used some rocks that had been part of our old front stairs and became part of a garden border around the house. Where these were the hostas had pretty much grown over so you couldn’t really see the rock anyway. I am so happy with how this new garden finished off this part of the yard.

We had a delivery this year of a topsoil compost blend. We had a delivery of it last year and used it to fill all my grow bags that went in my new vegetable garden and everything did so well! When the growing season was done we emptied the grow bags into the garden and then the delivery this year went to fill the vegetable garden and a few pots and new beds. My plan is to get my compost piles working so that I will be able to add my own soil amendments next year and not have to purchase any. I have always composted but I don’t turn it or really keep it separated so it takes longer. I am hoping to get my bins all set up soon so that with any luck next spring I will have loads of my own compost.

I am planting my vegetables in the ground this year except for my potatoes which are growing in grow bags. I find it really easy to grow potatoes this way. It doesn’t take up space in the garden and they are so easy to harvest when it’s time.  I mention in the video the cloches for the tomato plants. I don’t think they were necessary and I lost a few plants anyway. I think it was more because of the cloches rather than the cold. Fortunately I had some extras to replace the ones that didn’t make it so I won’t be shy on tomato plants this year.

I hope you enjoy the little garden tour. I plan to upload gardening videos every Friday so if you love gardening I hope you enjoy them.

Until next time…

-Michele, aka The Dreaming Dilettante

The cut flower scatter garden is from Renee’s Garden and can be found here.

The sunflower scatter garden is also from Renee’s Garden and can be found here.

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